HOW CAN I FORGIVE?

While living on this earth, its impossible for anyone of us to not get hurt or be offended by someone, or us not hurting someone or offending them. And sometimes(most of the time) forgiveness is so hard to do.

How can i “forgive and forget”?

How can I let go of the hurt when the person who hurt me is not even sorry.

Why is it so hard to forgive?

WHAT IS FORGIVENESS?

The word forgive means to let go, to pardon, to cancel a debt. In some other words it means – “i will give up my right to hurt you, for hurting me”. We release the person from the wrong they committed to us. And we forgive because God forgave us. Forgiving someone is an act of love, it is granted even the person doesn’t deserves to be forgiven.

What does God say about forgiveness?

• We forgive others to gain control of our lives from hurt emotions (Genesis 4:1-8).
• We forgive because God forgave us (Ephesians 4:32).
• We forgive in obedience to God (Matthew 6:14-15; Romans 12:18).
• We forgive so we won’t become bitter and defile those around us (Hebrews 12:14-15).

Why it is important to forgive?

1. Forgiveness is good for you. It is for your benefit not the benefit of the offender.
2. It will lead to healing. Holding on to resentment and not forgiving is sinful and stands in the way of your physical well being.
3. Forgiveness frees us, allowing us to move without anger.
4. Forgiveness leads you back to good physical and mental health.

When should I forgive?

Holding on to pain, hurt, resentment and anger won’t do us any good. So when this things are following you. It is time to forgive, you have a choice to be bitter or to let it go.

How can I forgive?

1. Take your time to think and acknowledge the pain. Admit that you’ve been hurt and be honest with how you feel.
2. Put yourself in the other person’s shoe. In doing this you’ll understand the other person more. Maybe there’s other issues in their lives that leads to offending you.
3. Remember that God forgave you. In remembering how God forgave you even if you don’t deserve it, can help you forgive others.
4. Remember God commands us to forgive. Our Lord Jesus Christ stressed the importance of forgiveness. Matthew 11:25 (NIV) “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”
5. Let go of the pain. Be determine that you are going to forgive. Tell God that you want to forgive. Pray that God will change your heart.
6. Continue to forgive. Keep on forgiving. When the memories of wrong comes to mind, forgive over and over.
7. Pray for the one who hurt you. Taking that person to God through prayer will help you to release any remaining resentment.

Forgiving someone is never easy, but with God it can be possible.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. – Lewis B. Smedes –

Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. – Jonathan Lockwood Huie –

Forgiveness is the best form of love. It takes a strong person to say they’re sorry and even stronger person to forgive.

Holding a grudge doesn’t make you strong: it makes you bitter. Forgiving doesn’t make you weak: it sets you free. – Dave Willis –

UNFORGIVENESS HURTS AND POISON OUR SPIRIT. IT TAKES AWAY LIFE FROM US. IT IS LIKE DRINKING POISON HOPING THAT THE OTHER PERSON GET SICK.

CHOOSE TO FORGIVE, LET GO AND YOU WILL BE FREE.